Everyone knows that gossip and drama addicted negative nellie. The more that you are around that type of person the more they rub off on you. It is literally like a toxin taking over your mind. Slowly gossip and drama overwhelms you and you become the person that everyone hates. Personally, I am able to attest to this as I have sadly fallen into the hell hole of negativity thanks to my room mate in college this year. Every where she goes drama follows or begins and my freshman experience has partially been ruined because of her. Even the school administration does not want to deal with her and as I am freaking out about living with this person I have become a gossip and drama machine as a form of venting about my living situation. Seeing that I will not be able to resolve this living situation any time soon, I have decided that I should at least try to change my attitude and become myself again in the meantime.
In a search for ways to improve, I stumbled across a different blog called "A Guide To Dealing With Toxic People." The first piece of advice was to avoid this person, however since I live with her, that is going to be an inevitable thing. The second tidbit of advice was to gravitate toward people that are not only nice to you but everyone. This was a way more helpful suggestion for me. I always like to meet new people and if I can find others that make me personally feel better and help get me back into my old ways of not just complaining all the time that would be an awesome way to break my current negativity habit. This piece of advice also reassured myself that I am making positive strides for myself in life. Recently joining a sorority has allowed me to surround myself with both positive and friendly people and also has helped me stay out of my dorm room and away from my toxic roommate for long periods of time.
A third piece of advice was to help the other person see the light. You would not believe how many times I have tried to help her break her habits. Even if it was just confronting her about drama I have done it many times and she still is creating problems. I do not understand how people like this can exist and not realize the problems she leaves in her destructive path. Barely anything has changed and I don't know if she is just not listening to me because she only cares about her thoughts or if she just does not understand that she is truly the reason things are going wrong around her. Clearly this is not working and although good advice, my roommate is showing signs of being unbreakable.
The fourth tip provided was the obvious one that I need to avoid: don't mirror their behavior. Although I admit I am gossiping, I see it as more of a way to vent all the bad things that are occurring in my room. Although it is in a way helping me, I do believe that people are annoyed with my constant complaints and therefore I want to change for the sake of me and my friendships. The final tip is to reflect on the relationship and I can truly say that it has been something that I have done from the beginning of the school year. I do not plan on keeping this girl in my life for one minute after freshman year ends and we go our separate ways. We really do not even have a relationship other than roommates to be completely honest.
Changing my life around will help me start sophomore year with a positive vibe. My fellow blogger who gave these tips is completely right. Keep these people out of your life! They will either effect you or change you and it is not something that any person would want to have happen to them. Toxic people are problems just waiting to happen and no one needs that negativity in their life.
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